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Sorting Out Financial Planning for Disabled Survivors

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As part of growing older, it becomes more and more important to be certain that those left behind, who are our responsibility, be provided security. When you have a child who is now an adult, who has certain needs beyond their ability, it is important to be sure they are covered.

When many adults have come into this world handicapped or have had something happen in their lives to render them with this, they may have certain coverage for their basic needs. Speaking from the United States point of view, because I have no experience or established experience with other countries, typically, disabled adults receive Social Security Disability monthly payments. In many cases, there is also Supplemental Security Income added in a separate payment. This helps make up for the difference between how much the person has contributed into the Social Security system and how much they need to fill in the difference in order for basic needs to be met.

Many of these adults have jobs, often part time positions. These help them to supplement their disability income so they can have a better life. Also, this helps those who have some ability to work to be active and to challenge their own abilities. Growth as as much independence as possible can be established. In other cases, there are more profound handicapped adults who are not able to function and may require home or other care to function day to day.

Since the ability to manage day to day living may be a challenge, there are often guardians who act in various capacities. In some cases, the person on disability may have just a guardian payee who manages the financial end of things. Wrap around services, such as transportation and personal assistants may be set up, along with medical overseeing and such.

The guardian payee is often the parent of the adult but not always. When a parent dies, the guardian payee may become another relative or a guardian may be selected for the surviving adult. Planning for how this is to take place becomes vital for the well-being of the adult who becomes the beneficiary.

When a parent/guardian manages the financial matters of the recipient, they must make sure that money is distributed in a budget wise sense. All basic needs of the recipient must be covered. There are annual reports required by Social Security. This requires a break down of where the money that comes in for Social Security is distributed. Additionally, there is a limitation as to how much money can be saved and this must be reported. This includes other asset limitations, as well. There are resources for this information, for those interested. When the recipient works, a monthly report of the gross income must be provided to Social Security. This is what is used to establish how much SSI is allowed per each month. As one can imagine, this adjustment can happen frequently if the income varies a lot. Certain expenses related to helping the recipient to be able to work are allowable. Social Security can help with this determination and it can help adjust the total amount countable. If the recipient is in a group home or similar placement, the entire Social Security and SSI check will likely be surrendered for their care.

When a parent/guardian passes away a person has to be designated as the responsible person for the well-being of the surviving beneficiary. This can be very crucial in the sense that the beneficiary needs to have all basic needs met without delay. In all of the planning for the death of the parent/guardian, this is the most important.

Considering who is to be appointed, it is vital that this is as seamless as possible. A will would be one place to start, except that this is very timely. That is why it is important that someone who is to be trusted would manage this delicate transition. This person or persons would be entrusted with accounting information so that they can smoothly transition to caring for the survivor.

Looking at various ways to establish that the beneficiary is cared for, there are options such a Special Needs Trusts, typically created in cases where there is a rather large estate. This would most likely require an attorney to set this up and can be costly. There is another option, it is an ABLE account. I believe all states have this program. An ABLE account can be set up while the parent/guardian is still living for the benefit of the beneficiary. The beneficiary can actually access monies from the ABLE account for their living expenses that are beyond what is received from Social Security and SSI. Those two payments are often used up with housing, food, clothing, medical and other essential needs. The monies from ABLE accounts are used for expenses to complement those basic needs. There must be a responsible person to manage the account as the beneficiary has no management of this account any more than they do of their Social Security and SSI monies, if they have been deemed unable to do so. That may not always be the case.

Why would the money go into a trust or ABLE account? If a recipient has provided money to them, they must count it towards their income and this would count against their benefits. It is as if they are found to be capable of living without any assistance. Maybe some people can do this. But the protections that are put in place with these accounts help keep the beneficiaries safe.

If a beneficiary is left money and/or property in a will, this is more than likely going to be counted as income. If this happens, certain benefits may be affected and the beneficiary could lose all or a portion of their living costs. Of course, if there is enough left to the beneficiary, it may not matter as far as surviving, but in many or possibly most cases, the beneficiary may be put in a difficult situation with their income. If there is a significant enough increase that throws them out of ability to receive assistance and then down the road the money is depleted, the means test for assistance could have to be redone. That could be a long, difficult challenge, possibly impacting the recipient long term. In the meantime, they have a shortage of surviving income. Also, in cases where a person is unable to do their own accounting, there has to be a designated guardian to handle any inheritance. This is where the ABLE account could be an option, where the monies would go into the ABLE account and the beneficiary would be the beneficiary of the ABLE account instead of any money or property left for them. This would have to be stated in the will in order for this to happen. Also, if there is significant money to be left, the money could be placed in a Special Needs Trust for the benefit of the recipient, otherwise they would be countable assets.

Rather than go in depth anymore about Special Needs Trusts and ABLE accounts, I would suggest searching those options. Here is a link to give you an idea about what the money can be used for with an ABLE account: ABLE Qualified Expenses

This information is simply from my own experience as a parent who has these matters to consider. It does not in any way reflect knowledge about the details of the law. I would suggest consulting an attorney about these matters, as need indicates. And this writer takes no responsibility of any action that comes from reviewing this information. It is a simply a point of view based on research and experience. My best to you as you go through the journey of helping your loved one with any needs.

For more information about ABLE accounts visit: ABLE Account Information

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Shopping Made Easy for My Life

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Have you ever noticed how much drive thru traveling happens? When I have errands to run, I want to get them done quickly. If you have to deal with chronic pain, then you can relate to this. You might also relate to this if you have a car full of children or other people who need some assistance. It is just easier to be able to order a drink through the drive thru. Because of this, I know pretty much the best places to go and the best routes to get where I need to go. One of my super powers is the ability to navigate an entire shopping trip around convenience, doing my very best not to have to recross paths so I can get done ASAP.

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Shopping is one of my least favorite things to do. Online shopping is my choice and I am forever grateful. Sometimes, it’s a fail, especially when something doesn’t fit. Then I either have to send it back for a refund or take to a local store to exchange. Surfing online and picking up at local stores is another option that makes my life easier. I am grateful for the ability to cut the time down a great deal with these resources.

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My favorite shopping is grocery shopping. As an avid label reader, it helps me stick to nutritional guidelines. It is also possible to find items of interest online, read the label online and then pick up in the store. Online grocery shopping is something I do for specialty items that are not available in the stores. Shopping for fresh items such as meat, dairy, fruit and vegetables would be challenging, but may become necessary. Wendy writes in her blog “Picnic With Ants” about her experience with online grocery shopping: How I Grocery Shop with Chronic Illness Thank you to Wendy for allowing me to share.

So, there you have it. Now, I will share my sample shopping trip for when I must go out. Starting with the set up, I carry a large container of ice water, much adopting my mother’s taking a jug of ice water and cups for everyone. She spoiled me when we would go places together. How I miss those times. Then, I set out. The first stop is usually/mostly/always the library. As an avid reader and to save a lot of money, using the library system, any book that interests me gets put on hold. Some go to my e-reader, but many are still regular books, usually large print. This is almost always my first stop since the books won’t thaw out. More than likely, there is a weekly trip to a discount store for household products. Then it is on to do returns/exchanges, donations, and anything else that does not involve fresh foods.

If this is a weekend trip, we often plan a meal out and sometimes get a Groupon to try out. Then, if I am energetic, it could mean a trip to the farmer’s market or, if not, to the grocery store. Picky that I am, there are some stores that cater to my needs better than others. Once this is done, I back home. To help make hauling groceries easier, we have a lovely dolly with a crate and bungee cord to roll the beautiful array of goodies inside. That is probably one of the best investments we have made.

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Mother’s Day is Every Day

My Post (25)Every day is Mother’s Day for me. I consider myself to be the luckiest woman in the world, just to say that. As some of you know, and now the rest of you, I didn’t become a mother in the conventional sense of the word. But. Does it really matter? I may have adopted. I may have first viewed my child when she was 8 years old, as a foster child. It does not mean that I didn’t go through labor pains. It sure doesn’t.

Anybody who has fostered knows what I am talking about. First, you have to be assessed for a criminal background. That pack of gum I took at age 6 might just show up on my record. Well, whew for that one. I call statute of limitations on that experience. You have to be fingerprinted and wait…wait…wait… Then you do classes. Now, this is where I tend to get preachy. If you ever, ever, ever are thinking of parenting, then take a foster parent class. I can guarantee that you will find this to be just as applicable to raising your own natural born children. The scenarios vary and are very adaptable. You get questions such as: What would you do if your child wanted to run away from home? How do you feel about thumb sucking? What are your plans for meals? Do you plan to serve your children the same things you eat, why or why not? Get the picture? When taking the classes, I often asked myself what my parents would have given for answers. How I was raised, I saw no real issues with. I turned out well. If I had answered some of the questions with the way I was raised, well, I may not be a parent today. See how that works. It’s a catch and you have to be aware of these things.

What I do not know is if you have to do these classes if you do a private adoption. I have heard that you have to be assessed but I really have not done the research about how all of that works. My expertise has always been with the foster care to adoption system via the state system. I graduated with an emphasis of experience in child welfare. My interests have always been in public vs private. Not to knock those who choose going private. I can think of a million and one reasons why I would think that would be preferred. Just like, I have a million and one reasons why I went the route I did. No judgment.

As an aside…if you didn’t know this…did you know I did my practicum at an adoption agency in New York? It was a great experience. Here I was a Midwesterner from a very small Mississippi River town who spent this period in NYC and worked out of Little Neck NY. I was exposed to much more than I expected and greatly enriched my knowledge about adoption, high risk adoptions, how kids are matched with parents, what prejudices people deal with, cultural influences, socioeconomic challenges, and more. I did learn that my heart could break for birth parents, that I have compassion for all people involved in the adoption spectrum, that if I had the powers in me that all adoptions would be open adoptions, and more…so much more. None of this had anything to do with big city life vs small city life. Problems are problems are problems. Each area has some kind of somethings to deal with.

Back to my initial story…  There was a long wait from inception of the idea to foster to the day when my daughter and I met. We met at an ice cream shop in a little town about 30 minutes from where we lived. We were to meet, see how it felt to each of us and if all went well, I would take her home for the weekend. We did that. We went home. Well, on the way home this beautiful brown eyed doll asked me if she could call me “mommy.” Now, think about the TV show about What would you do? I covered this is in my poem from my chapbook:

Call Me Mommy

You asked me,
Your 8-year-old self,
May I call you ''mommy?''
I lost it.

So, you can kind of get an idea where that ended.

From the time I met my daughter, I just knew she was not going to be fostered long term. I already adopted her in my heart. When she came to live with us, I knew, just knew that it would be forever. Right before Christmas, at a special arrangement with the court house and many thanks to my attorney, we were able to grant our daughter the one wish she had for Christmas. She wanted to take our last name. The following spring, around this same time of year, she was baptized. That was another of her wishes. And we had a huge adoption party for her. It was like all of those Christmases and birthdays that were missed over all the years, all in one.

Later in life, we learned we could help her search for one family member of her choice via the adoption search service offered by the state of adoption. She chose to find her brother. Funny thing about that is that he was found in the state of NC and we were in IA are the time, only after living in NC for a number of years. We eventually moved back to NC and they met. Along with her brother, she found out he had children and my daughter became an instant aunt. Since that time, she has found all but two siblings and more extended family, largely in the Facebook scene and thanks to the brother that she found. He had discovered where people were. I feel such joy for her that she found her blood family. But the one thing that stands strongly intact is the bond that she and I have a mother and child. There is nothing that will change that.

I have my daughters consent to talk about these things and she loves to hear the story about when we met. She loves that it is in poetic form. But the greatest lyrics are those that are in our hearts. Those you cannot put to a tune but can only feel within your soul. My soul connects to my daughter in an unexplainable way and that is why I believe that we take our families into our hearts and souls and make them ours in that very way.

There’s another story to be told about motherhood, but that is in another upcoming post. Just know this. If you have it in your heart and soul to allow another person in to your life, considering fostering and maybe even adoption is not a bad way to go.